As our parents age, showing them love does not have to involve grand gestures. Instead, it is often the little, everyday things that mean the most. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in our busy lives that we forget how small and simple acts can make a meaningful impact on our lives and the lives of our parents. These 10 simple yet powerful ways to show love to your elderly parents every day are inspired by my parents, and the importance of connection and care.
1. Call Them Regularly
If you parents don’t live with you, and visiting them every day is not possible, a quick phone call can make a world of difference. We use our phones continuously all day anyways, so sparing a few minutes for our parents is very easy. But for them, hearing your voice and knowing you are thinking of them will go a long way to brighten their day. Make it part of your routine, whether it is a morning check-in, an afternoon call or an evening chat.
2. Spend Quality Time Together
When planning your schedules, remember to set aside some time to spend with your parents. Whether it is sharing a meal, watching their favorite show, or simply sitting together in silence, your presence speaks volumes.
I try to visit my parents regularly, and will always cherish the time I spent with my Papa. We often spent quiet afternoons talking, listening to music and enjoying samosas together. These moments not only deepened our bond but also brought him immense comfort and joy.
As for me, I have beautiful memories that are priceless.
3. Help with Daily Tasks
As parents age, everyday chores can become challenging. Offering to help with groceries, laundry, or organizing their living space can show them you care. You can also get them a meal delivery subscription or house cleaning services. Remember, helping does not necessarily mean that you have to do everything yourself. It means taking an initiative to utilize available resources to improve their quality of life.
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4. Show Patience and Understanding
Aging can come with frustrations for both parents and children. The role models and strong pillars we knew may now need more time and assistance with activities of daily living, which can be hard to accept for both parents and children. Acknowledge and accept the fact that your parents are aging and now they need you to be their strength. Show patience if they repeat stories or take longer to complete tasks. Remember, your understanding helps them feel valued and respected.
5. Offer Personalized Care
There is no one size fits all solution on how to care for an elderly parent. Get to know what they like and enjoy. Little gestures tailored to their preferences go a long way. Bring them their favorite tea, help them pick out an outfit for a special day, or spend time engaging in an activity they enjoy. These thoughtful actions show you truly know and care for them.
6. Listen to Their Stories
There is so much going on in the world and in your life that you probably feel you don’t have time to listen to old stories. After all, everything is now available at your fingertips with AI and Social Media. However, these innovations lack personal experiences and emotions. Take the time to ask your parents about their past and listen attentively. Parents love sharing memories, and you will learn more about their life and values, which you can pass down to new generations. These conversations also create a sense of purpose and connection, so your parents do not feel left out.
7. Go for Walks Together
Mother Nature can do wonders for our mood and overall wellbeing. If your parents are physically able, outdoor walks will positively impact their mental and physical health; and you can also use this time to take a break from your electronic devices and just enjoy nature.
My Papa loved to walk outside, and even after he was in a wheelchair, he looked forward to going outside for a stroll and enjoying the fresh air. I loved these times, because they often became opportunities for heart-to-heart conversations and jolly laughter.
8. Show Affection
No matter how many cute emojis you might use on your phone, nothing compares to the power of human touch. Research shows that human touch calms our nervous system, slows down our heartbeat, lowers stress and triggers the release of oxytocin, a hormone known for promoting emotional bonding. A warm hug, holding their hand, or a gentle pat on the shoulder can provide immense emotional comfort. Physical gestures remind them they are loved and cared for.
My Papa was blind, so touch was the best way for him to feel my presence. He always appreciated a gentle hand massage especially because he was struggling with stiffness due to Parkinson’s disease. Take time to understand their emotional needs and do your best to make them feel loved.
9. Keep Their Environment Safe and Comfortable
As we age, we may need to rethink our living space. Help them maintain a clean, clutter-free home that is easy to navigate. Safety measures, like securing rugs, installing grip bars or railings and ensuring good lighting, can show you are thinking of their well-being.
For example, my Papa was blind so we made sure there were no obstacles like coffee tables or rugs which might be hazardous. If you need help, engage the services of an occupational therapist who can assess your parents’ needs and advise accordingly.
10. Encourage Their Hobbies
Sometimes age can be a deterrent for our parents to continue with hobbies they enjoyed when they were younger. Do you know what their hobbies were? All the more reason to keep constant communication with them so that you can support their interests by encouraging them to engage in hobbies or activities they enjoy. Whether it is knitting, gardening, or reading, these activities bring joy and a sense of purpose.
If they feel overwhelmed because their abilities may not be the same due to medical conditions, encourage them to join a seniors group with similar interests. Seeing other people of the same age can provide much needed inspiration and empowerment.
After the pandemic, my Mum was feeling anxious about socializing due to a change in her medical condition. I acknowledged her fears and encouraged her to attend the events. Sometimes I accompanied her to give her a little confidence boost. Eventually she gained back her confidence and excitement, to venture out on her own.
Final Thoughts
Showing love to an elderly parent is not complicated. It is about the consistent, thoughtful gestures that remind them of their importance in your life. These little acts build a foundation of care and appreciation that strengthen your relationship and create beautiful memories that you and they will cherish forever.
If you reside in Ontario and need help with elderly care, visit Ontario Health atHome where you can find valuable resources such as Care coordination, Nursing, Physiotherapy, Occupational therapy, Personal support and much more. These services can help you help your elderly parents so they can enjoy a good quality of life.
As the writer Maya Angelou beautifully said, “People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” Make your elderly parent feel loved every day.
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Beautifully written. Thank you for the valuable tips.
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